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Sometimes I wonder why I'm still single after all this time.

People easily say it's because I have high standards. Which I don't believe in. Is it so bad to look for a bit of chemistry or spark? I've turned down a couple of guys because I didn't feel like going out with them when they asked me out. It's not because they didn't "fit my standards". It just didn't feel right. I want to be at least slightly attracted to the guy before going out with him. I don't want to go through the awkward ritual of a first date with someone I don't feel anything for. I don't want to waste his time and money.

The last one I agreed to have breakfast with him because I've run out of excuses. And after him sending flowers and a cake for Valentine's Day, I have to admit I felt that I had to repay him by agreeing to go out with him at least once. Which was wrong, if I look back. But even before I had breakfast with him, I knew I didn't want to go out with him. I wasn't exactly thrilled when I got the flowers. And on the day of the breakfast meetup, I intentionally didn't fix myself up so as not to give him the idea that the day was anything special.

I'm so bad.

But, that's more than one sign that I really didn't like the guy right, and that it was a hopeless case? Other people would say give guys a chance, but don't we know from the beginning if there's hope or not?