I just spent the last four months reading about empowering employees for class for long-term success of the company.
My very first employee is just one month into the job and I'm already getting frustrated with her. Am I being too hard?
My cousin-in-law, the one who referred her, said she wasn't a leader. And that she's taken her teacher licensure exam a few times now but hasn't passed. I know board exams are tough, so I gave her a break. How hard would it be to sell items? And she did spend 3 years with my cousin-in-law in a retail business too.
But all she does is clean and I've started testing her on her familiarity with the products and her progress is quite slow. All she does is clean and clean. As much as I appreciate that, I need to see that she will learn the products within the next 2 months until her probation ends.
I really do hope she proves to be worth it. It's not easy to find someone, but I can't afford someone who will not be able to hold the fort if I'm away, and don't need me to babysit her all the time.
Friday, March 16, 2012
Monday, March 5, 2012
Argh
It's so frustrating when potentially good guy friends screw things up when they start asking you out, when you just aren't attracted to them that way.
If I remember correctly, it's the second time it's happened.
Here's what happened now:
A classmate of mine added me on Facebook. I wasn't so busy then yet, so I would be online and he would start a chat. He invited me to a party around Christmas time, and that was how he got my number, so he could follow up with me.
It seemed innocent enough. I was just making friends. I wasn't able to go to that party. I didn't really think much about it, I just didn't know enough people in the party. He seemed like a decent enough friend until he started asking me out, and saying he was going to send me flowers for Valentine's Day. Who says it in advance anyway?
Now I have this bad habit of sometimes not replying to text messages. And with the way he was being persistent, I wasn't replying to several of his text messages. But he did send me flowers and a cake for Valentine's. I wasn't exactly moved by it. (I must have written a post about this) It was an obvious sign I wasn't into him.
But he asked me out fro breakfast the weekend after. Which was convenient for him, since our class together was at nine in the morning, and I couldn't come up with any excuse to say no to him. So I had breakfast with him and it was boring. No sparks.
After that he started asking me out again. And I didn't reply to his messages. Until I finally said no. It was hard and I felt bad. He apologized after that and didn't text for the next few days. Good thing a few days before our next class he texted again, and I was grateful. Maybe things would go back to the way it was.
But seeing him again in class, it felt awkward. I did my part in giving him a cupcake I promised a few weeks before. I tried, I really did. And I even said by to him after class.
Then now he texts that I'm being so cold. And it's unfair. I'm not being cold. I'm only human, I can't act as if everything's fine and dandy. I don't know if I should reply this time. At least to defend myself. Or not to bother.
If I remember correctly, it's the second time it's happened.
Here's what happened now:
A classmate of mine added me on Facebook. I wasn't so busy then yet, so I would be online and he would start a chat. He invited me to a party around Christmas time, and that was how he got my number, so he could follow up with me.
It seemed innocent enough. I was just making friends. I wasn't able to go to that party. I didn't really think much about it, I just didn't know enough people in the party. He seemed like a decent enough friend until he started asking me out, and saying he was going to send me flowers for Valentine's Day. Who says it in advance anyway?
Now I have this bad habit of sometimes not replying to text messages. And with the way he was being persistent, I wasn't replying to several of his text messages. But he did send me flowers and a cake for Valentine's. I wasn't exactly moved by it. (I must have written a post about this) It was an obvious sign I wasn't into him.
But he asked me out fro breakfast the weekend after. Which was convenient for him, since our class together was at nine in the morning, and I couldn't come up with any excuse to say no to him. So I had breakfast with him and it was boring. No sparks.
After that he started asking me out again. And I didn't reply to his messages. Until I finally said no. It was hard and I felt bad. He apologized after that and didn't text for the next few days. Good thing a few days before our next class he texted again, and I was grateful. Maybe things would go back to the way it was.
But seeing him again in class, it felt awkward. I did my part in giving him a cupcake I promised a few weeks before. I tried, I really did. And I even said by to him after class.
Then now he texts that I'm being so cold. And it's unfair. I'm not being cold. I'm only human, I can't act as if everything's fine and dandy. I don't know if I should reply this time. At least to defend myself. Or not to bother.
the one that got away
I need a new crush.
Because without one, I think about "the one that got away" (TOWGA), and it's not healthy. Somehow I feel that my crush on TOWGA has been blown out of proportion by my own freaking brain. My imagination's in overdrive.
I watched "What's Your Number?" this afternoon. (It was a pretty bad movie, but Chris Evans is HOT!) In the movie, Anna Faris tracked the 19 guys she's been with, with her mind set that one of them is actually the one.
Watching it, and knowing deep down, it doesn't really make sense to get back with someone when it really didn't work the first time. So why bother?
TOWGA... he's hot. He always was, he still is. But... he's an example that it just stopped in the physical. I'm trying to remember how he was as a person and I couldn't remember anything significant. I just remember how cute he is.
So I need someone who can override his memory. Now. Someone who isn't just a pretty face. Someone who has more substance and makes me laugh.
Where are you?
Because without one, I think about "the one that got away" (TOWGA), and it's not healthy. Somehow I feel that my crush on TOWGA has been blown out of proportion by my own freaking brain. My imagination's in overdrive.
I watched "What's Your Number?" this afternoon. (It was a pretty bad movie, but Chris Evans is HOT!) In the movie, Anna Faris tracked the 19 guys she's been with, with her mind set that one of them is actually the one.
Watching it, and knowing deep down, it doesn't really make sense to get back with someone when it really didn't work the first time. So why bother?
TOWGA... he's hot. He always was, he still is. But... he's an example that it just stopped in the physical. I'm trying to remember how he was as a person and I couldn't remember anything significant. I just remember how cute he is.
So I need someone who can override his memory. Now. Someone who isn't just a pretty face. Someone who has more substance and makes me laugh.
Where are you?
Sunday, March 4, 2012
untitled
Sometimes I wonder why I'm still single after all this time.
People easily say it's because I have high standards. Which I don't believe in. Is it so bad to look for a bit of chemistry or spark? I've turned down a couple of guys because I didn't feel like going out with them when they asked me out. It's not because they didn't "fit my standards". It just didn't feel right. I want to be at least slightly attracted to the guy before going out with him. I don't want to go through the awkward ritual of a first date with someone I don't feel anything for. I don't want to waste his time and money.
The last one I agreed to have breakfast with him because I've run out of excuses. And after him sending flowers and a cake for Valentine's Day, I have to admit I felt that I had to repay him by agreeing to go out with him at least once. Which was wrong, if I look back. But even before I had breakfast with him, I knew I didn't want to go out with him. I wasn't exactly thrilled when I got the flowers. And on the day of the breakfast meetup, I intentionally didn't fix myself up so as not to give him the idea that the day was anything special.
I'm so bad.
But, that's more than one sign that I really didn't like the guy right, and that it was a hopeless case? Other people would say give guys a chance, but don't we know from the beginning if there's hope or not?
People easily say it's because I have high standards. Which I don't believe in. Is it so bad to look for a bit of chemistry or spark? I've turned down a couple of guys because I didn't feel like going out with them when they asked me out. It's not because they didn't "fit my standards". It just didn't feel right. I want to be at least slightly attracted to the guy before going out with him. I don't want to go through the awkward ritual of a first date with someone I don't feel anything for. I don't want to waste his time and money.
The last one I agreed to have breakfast with him because I've run out of excuses. And after him sending flowers and a cake for Valentine's Day, I have to admit I felt that I had to repay him by agreeing to go out with him at least once. Which was wrong, if I look back. But even before I had breakfast with him, I knew I didn't want to go out with him. I wasn't exactly thrilled when I got the flowers. And on the day of the breakfast meetup, I intentionally didn't fix myself up so as not to give him the idea that the day was anything special.
I'm so bad.
But, that's more than one sign that I really didn't like the guy right, and that it was a hopeless case? Other people would say give guys a chance, but don't we know from the beginning if there's hope or not?
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